FREE online courses on Handling Our Own Aggression & Anger - Level I
Aggression control methods focusing on simple behavior - Self-punish aggression
Like any other unwanted behavior, you can punish your own
angry behavior. Also, you can atone or
over-correct or make up for your inconsiderate behavior. But make
sure this latter approach, the "let's make up; I'm very sorry" stage, isn't a
con or manipulation. Many abusive persons apologize, promise it won't ever
happen again, and become very loving afterwards for a while...until they get mad
and abusive the next time. The idea in this method is not for you to be forgiven
but to be self-punished--to make your angry aggression unprofitable and
unpleasant to you as the aggressor so you won't do it again.
